ADD or Disassociation?
People with DID are often misdiagnosed as having ADD or ADHD, when in fact they are dissociating (spacing out a lot as a defense mechanism). That’s right spacing out is a defense mechanism. If you grow up in a household where horrible things are always happening, things over which we have no control, and are often forced to participate in, our best defense is to go away in our minds and in our bodies to a fantasy place. Our best defense is not to be in the present, not to be in our bodies, in order not to experience pain that might be happening.
The reason we dissociate is to avoid feelings or sensations within the body. For a person with DID, feelings or body sensations that you focus on or that get triggered by something in the environment can lead to flashbacks, so it is best not to have them. The remedy or coping strategy then becomes dissociation. Dissociation, for your garden variety people, means spacing out into non-essential details, other people’s lives, projects, etc.
Dissociation is the polar opposite of mindfulness. However, for someone with DID, dissociation means not only spacing out at times, but not feeling ones body, not being present in certain types of physical experiences, avoiding emotions at times, and not being present for shifts in consciousness that happen. Someone with DID will often shift out of one personality (called alters by therapists) to another. This is often not happening consciously by choice but more as an unconscious survival strategy to cope with anxiety and the different threats or situations in life. Creating sub-personalities appears to a be a common strategy for young children who are experiencing extreme trauma as a way of coping with the unbearable experiences of pain, or rather, to be in the experiences of pain but to not be present with their experience.